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It strikes me how much of conventional "gentlemanly" behavior is subtly (or not so subtly) linked to disposable income. Things like offering to pay for dates, carrying a quality pocketknife for everyday utility and preparedness, or even just dressing sharply frequently enough require a certain level of financial comfort. It's easy to say "just be polite and respectful," but the aspirational aspects of being a "gentleman" seem to frequently enough hinge on spending money.
Does anyone else find it challenging to navigate this? For instance, offering to split the bill on a first date instead of insisting on paying can be seen as less "gentlemanly" even though it's arguably more equitable, especially if your on a tight budget. Or, wanting to buy a decent quality watch or a well-made pair of shoes that will last for years instead of cheap fast-fashion items, but simply not being able to afford the upfront investment. I wonder how much of the "gentlemanly ideal" needs to be re-evaluated in light of modern economic realities and the increasing cost of living. What are some strategies you've found to reconcile these competing pressures?